Issue date: 10/26/06 Section: Opinion

Yes, girls are crazy. As a girl, I will freely admit that we are a breed apart from men. We think and act differently, and engage in relationships on a different level from the male breed. But if we are crazy when it comes to men, it is only because men have made us this way.

With your games, your lies, and your inability to commit, we, the fairer sex, have come to mimic you in these aspects of love.

Take for example, the games women seem to play. Now some women, I will admit, lead men on simply to torture them. They love having several men writhing on a spit being turned over the fire. Most women, however, are not trying to lead a guy on. We are just preempting the inevitable heartbreak that will result from a relationship.

Anyone who has lived to tell the sob story of a heartbreaking romance knows exactly what I am talking about. A man in our past somewhere has hurt us so deeply that we find it hard to trust anyone, never mind fall in love again. So we hurt you before you can hurt us. It all makes sense. Just go find that one guy in your girl's past, and just say thanks for ruining any chances you once would have had.

And do not try to tell me that men have never played games with the women in their lives. One phrase comes to mind: "We should just be friends." Women of BSC, I would imagine that this has happened to about oh, say 100 percent of you. Believe you me, this phrase hurts. So women will use this little gem on men too. I would imagine that it hurts just as much.

With the "just friends" comes some truth. Some people are just better off being friends than they are dating. Honestly, women would rather have a guy tell them that they should remain friends than get entangled in a doomed romance. Sooner or later, one person or the other will get more hurt because the relationship has come to an end. I, for one, would prefer to be told in the beginning that, hey, there really is no chemistry between us. And I think the same would hold true for guys.

Finally, we come to that small thing known as "playing the field." For guys, this might entail going out to a club, hitting up the local bar or just flirting with that cute girl in a class. Or, you know, a nice cocktail of all three. No one faults a guy when he has three girls to flirt with or go out with. And it should be the same for girls. Yet, if I were to tell you, for example, that I was seeing multiple guys right now, many readers would be outraged. I mean, nice girls do not play the field.

The field, however, leaves commitment out of the equation for a while. This makes our style of dating just like many men. For women who have lived through heartbreak, and "just friends," the field can be a very fun and freeing experience: Going out without worrying about the boyfriend back home, being able to flirt with any guy who catches your eye, and just having carefree fun are all benefits of dating around.

Everything I have just gone through is not unusual behavior for men in college, if not the norm. Give girls the same freedom.

One thing is for sure, men should not fault us for our actions. In the end, we can trace the way we date and act with guys, back to that one guy who dented our ability to trust, love, and commit.

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